Asking for Advice
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1- Ask someone with relevant knowledge or experience. When you're asking for advice, try to rely on people who can really give you insight into the problem. Think creatively—they don't necessarily have to be in your exact shoes to have relevant experience. Make sure it's someone who really wants to see you succeed, as well.

  • If it's possible, try to choose a few different people to go to for advice. That diversity will help ensure you don't just rely on people who have the same perspective as you.


2- Start with a positive tone. Asking for advice can be tough. Start out on the right foot by opening with something positive and straightforward. Avoid being self-deprecating—even experts in their fields need advice from time to time.

  • Keep it simple by saying something like, "I'd love your advice, do you have 20 minutes to spare?"
  • Ask the person if they're open to giving advice to see if they're the appropriate person to ask.


3- Define the problem clearly for the advice-giver. Other people's advice won't make much of a difference if you're not 100% clear on what the core issue is. Start at the end—describe the decision you need to make. Then, explain everything you have to consider in relation to that decision, like other people who are involved, the goals you're trying to accomplish, and what's making the situation more difficult. That way, the person giving you the advice will be able to speak directly to the issue, and they'll be less likely to give you vague or generic advice.

  • Try to avoid unnecessary details, also. Give the person just as much information as they need to know.
  • Ask yourself what your blind spots are—what are you really struggling with, and where do you need the most guidance?
  • For example, if you're struggling with whether you should accept a job offer, you might explain what the job will entail, how it compares to your current job, and anything that's complicating the decision, like needing to relocate.


4- Don't ask for advice to validate a decision you've already made. It can be tempting sometimes to go to someone 'for advice,' when what you really want is confirmation. If you're pretty sure you already know what you're going to do, just go ahead with it. Either that, or you'll have to open yourself up to the possibility that you might be wrong.

  • For instance, if you're struggling with a difficult problem at work, don't go to your boss for advice when you already have a possible solution in mind.
  • Similarly, don't ask for advice as a shortcut for doing the work yourself.

 

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